Jenni Tarrant's triumph: popular Kingston hairdresser is now an author and has an OAM

The popular Kingston hairdresser has survived horrific childhood abuse to create a successful life for herself, one in which she gives back to others.

The owner of Bond Hair Religion in Green Square was invited to be one of nine courageous women from around Australia to share her story of resilience in the Roar anthology published by the Business in Heels group. All royalties from the book sold under Jenni's name will go to the Toora Women's refuge and Act for Kids.

And last week, she walked the soft-carpeted halls of Government House to be awarded the medal in the general division of the Order of Australia (OAM) by Governor-General David Hurley.

Jenni received the honour for her services to hairdressing and to humanitarian initiatives. She has so far over her career raised more than $160,000 for women and children at risk.

Writing her story for Roar was cathartic and a way to raise more money for those in need. She also wanted to help others dealing with their own demons. As a child, she was subjected to verbal and physical abuse by her mother. People known to her family also repeatedly sexually abused her.

"It was difficult," she said. "I've got a very good relationship with my mum, but I didn't. It was difficult when I was a kid. There were other people outside the family who were the paedophiles but my mum had her own journey which led to verbal and physical abuse.

"I talk a lot about her in the book, so the most difficult thing was giving her the book to read.

"But the greatest thing we have in our relationship is that she's always said, 'Yes, that is who I was' and acknowledges she was dealing with her own demons. We now have the most beautiful relationship. I think it's also about forgiveness and learning that everyone is on their own journey. We can all change. We can all make mistakes. I'm not perfect by any means. But it's about moving forward."

The turning point for Jenni came at 13 when she got a part-time job helping at a local hair salon.

"That was the day my chosen career saved my life," she writes in Roar.

"You see, due to working the late nights, Saturdays and full-time during school holidays, I could no longer go away with the people who were my sexual abusers."

Her life did not neatly unfold without incident from that point. It took a lot of understanding, forgiveness and self-development.

"It's more about, no matter what you've been through in the past, you can choose to not allow those things take over the rest of your life," she said.

Jenni, 52, is married with a son, now 24, and has three businesses.

She suffers from post-traumatic stress disorder as a result of her abuse and ongoing depression and anxiety. But helping others has been the difference.

She has fundraised by doing everything from do the Kokoda Trail in five days, living for seven days in her Holden Barina in the middle of winter to draw attention to homelessness and wearing tape over her mouth for a week to represent the silence around mental health.

Receiving the OAM was an honour, but not the reason she does her charity work.

"I'm still a bit thrown by it," she said. "I just like to do my thing and, hopefully, help people out. It was so beautiful to have an ex-staff member and her husband put me up for it in the first place.

"For me, the awards and things mean that's going to give me leverage to get more and bigger businesses to donate to my charities. At the end of the day, the next person I speak to, as long as they feel good about themselves, the next person's hair I cut, as long as they're deliriously happy, that's all I want. It's not the medals.

"But it is lovely and it was lovely to have my parents there. I'm first generation Australian on my mum's side and second generation on my dad's.

"So to have parents who were immigrants see their daughter get an Order of Australia, it was pretty cool."